Professional Sex Therapist, Sex Therapy, Sex Counselling 

Confidential private consultations face to face, by phone, or online talk sessions.

A sex therapist or sex counsellor is a specialist professional with an academic education in human sexuality.

Affirmotive's sex therapist Heide McConkey is a registered professional counsellor, with a specialization in sex, sexuality, sex addiction, behaviour changes, and sexual health counselling.

Heide believes that life is to be enjoyed, and healthy sex and sexuality have positive influences on life-quality, health, vitality, energy and self-esteem. Healthy sex affirms wellbeing and gender.

Research confirms that regular sex can reduce the risk of fatal coronary disease, prostate cancer and breast cancer in men, while the impact of sex on female breast cancer is still a study subject and not yet confirmed.

Sexual problems are amongst the most common treatable life-challenges, and many people will experience sexual difficulties or sexual distress at some stage of their life.

Affirmotive's experienced sexologist can successfully assist couples and individuals in overcoming their personal sexual and relationship difficulties with confidential professional counselling, sex therapy, and sex education.

individual and couple 

• sex and couples counselling
• relationship upheaval - impact on sexuality
  
• desire discrepancy - building the bridge between male and female differences in sexual interests
• partner sexual assertive communication - expressing sexual needs without shame or shyness
  
• pregnancy and parenthood - impact on sexuality and relationship dynamics
• sexual education
• sexual boundaries
  
• not getting enough sex
• overload of sex
  
• crushes and affairs

sexual dysfunction

• low desire - low interest in sex, low libido
  
• arousal disorder - delayed or accelerated responses indicating readiness for sex
  
• orgasm disorder - inability or hyper sensitivity to feeling pleasure, climax
  
• ejaculation, premature - 'coming' too soon
  
• ejaculation delayed - experiencing distress due to not being able to 'come' or under difficulties
  
• ejaculation retrograde - ejaculating inwardly into bladder with no evidence of ejaculate outwardly, and no concern to performance or health
  
• erectile dysfunction - impaired erections due to physical reasons
  
• performance anxiety - impaired erections or performance due to psychological reasons
  
• impotence - chronic inability to achieve erections strong enough to complete intercourse
  
• peyronie's disease - bending and angulation of penis caused by fibrous within shaft of penis
• painful intercourse - due to penile injury or tight foreskin
  
• vaginismus - female inability to achieve penetration
  
• vulvodynia - painful vulval disease, may trigger secondary vaginismus
  
• dyspareunia - pain during intercourse
• vaginal dryness - decrease of vaginal lubrication
  
• vaginal atrophy - thinning of vaginal lining
  

 sexual health

• male and female condoms
• lubrication
• safe sex
  
• contraception
• pregnancy
  
• STI's and HIV/AIDS
• fear, guilt, shame 
• sexual hygiene
• sex, mental hygiene, alcohol, drugs
  
• pain
  

 sex and aging

• physiological changes with sex and aging in men and women
  
• age related erection and performance changes
• age related changes in female sexual performance
  
• male and female age related changes in desire and arousal responses
  
• changes in orgasm
• hormone replacement issues
• prostate
  
• menopause
  
• painful sex
  
• body image
  
• sex and illness
  
• energy changes and positive sexual aging
  

sexual orientation and gender

• discomfort or confusion with sexual orientation
  
• discomfort or confusion with gender
  
• 'coming out' - stress, fear, taking a risk
  
• discomfort with stereotyping gay, lesbian, bisexual, transsexual
• transgender MtF, FtM  and SRS, life-style, relationship and family planning
  
• intersex - born with characteristics of both, male and female gender
  
• crossdresser - desire to dress as opposite gender and identify as both male and female
  

sexual trauma

• sexual assault on men
• sexual assault on women
  
• sexual abuse experienced as a child
• sexual shaming
  
• rape  
  
• incest
• child molestation
• early exposure to pornography
  
• sexual abuse in relationship or marriage
• traumatic sex
  
• sex without consent
• traumatic child birth
  
• traumatic physical examination
• traumatic punishment - a child being harshly punished, not intended by the caregiver - but experienced by the child as sexual intrusion
  

sexual behaviours and lifestyles 

• sex addiction
• pornography addiction
  
• excessive habitual sexual behaviours
  
• sexual obsessions and intrusive sexual fantasies
  
• sexual compulsions
  
• compulsive relationships
• sex avoidance 
• paraphilias
• BDSM
• polyamory