Sex Therapist, Professional Sex Therapy, Specialist Sex Counsellor 

Welcome to Affirmotive's confidential Private Sex Therapist Practice.

Testimonial Heide McConkey has worked with Impotence Australia since 2001. Heide has displayed remarkable skills in assessment and providing treatments for sexual dysfunction. I find Heide's current work with applying Voice Dialogue and sex therapy exciting and I am sure that this method will add a new dynamic to the field of sexology. Heide has provided a high standard of supervision to sexologist at Impotence Australia.
Brett McCann CEO Impotence Australia

'Life is meant to be enjoyed, our body is created for pleasure - healthy sex is our rightful passage to harmony and love'. - Heide McConkey

GLORIOUS SEX AND LOVING!

Heide believes sexual health and wellbeing is the right of all people.

Sexual health is the free and resposible expression of one's unique sexuality and personal capacity that creates personal, relationship, and social wellness.

Sexual health stretches beyond the absence of dysfunction or disease.

Expression of healthy sexuality has positive influences on life-quality and vitality. Healthy sex helps affirming wellbeing and gender.

Research confirms that regular sex can reduce the risk of coronary disease, prostate cancer and breast cancer in men, while the impact of sex on female breast cancer is still unconfirmed.

Our human ability to bond and to love, to be sexual and sensual, and to be able to experience intense sexual pleasures is our foremost natural gift.

Attraction, sex, love, bond, and our parental instincts are the reasons why we are here. Because human sexuality and love are very strong emotions, they are also very vulnerable.

Sexual wellbeing can be influenced by various emotional, mental, environmental, and physical health factors.

Sexual problems are common and almost always treatable conditions. Many people will experience sexual difficulties or sexual distress at some stage of their life.

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individual and couples sex therapy

• Sex and couples counselling, all orientations.
• Sexuality and vitality in long-term relationships.
• Intimacy problems..
• Roles of sex in procreation and recreation.
• Relationship upheaval, and the impact on sex and intimacy.
• Mental, emotional, physical health and the impact on sex.
• Desire discrepancy, and building the bridge between partner's differences in sexual interests.
• Assertive communication, expressing sexual and emotional needs and wants without shame or shyness.
• Pregnancy and childbirth, and the impact on sexuality and relationship dynamics.
• Couples privacy.
• Sexual boundaries.
• Sexual consent.
• Initiating sex.
• Playful sex, role-play, and positions.
• Sex toys.
• Not getting enough sex.
• Overload of sex.
• Love and lust.
• Trust and jealousy.
• Flirting.
• Crushes and affairs.
• Sex avoidance.

sexual functioning and dysfunction therapy

• Low desire, low libido, mismatched libidos.
• Arousal disorder - impaired, accelerated or inadequate sexual responses.
• Orgasmic disorder - inability or hyper sensitivity to feeling pleasure or climax.
• Persistent Sexual Arousal Disorder (female) -  Spontaneous genital arousal/vasocongestion, can lasting hours/days.
• Premature ejaculation control, drug free.
• Delayed ejaculation - experiencing distress due to not being able to ejaculate, or under difficulties.
• Retrograde ejaculation - ejaculating inwardly into bladder, with no evidence of ejaculating outwardly.
• Hemotospermiasis - taces of blood or blood clots appearing in ejaculate, usually benign and caused by bursting blood vessel of prostate or seminal vesicle area. Can also be caused by infection or medical condition. If recurrent see your doctor.
• Erectile dysfunction - impaired erections due to physical or psychological reasons.
• Performance anxiety - impaired erections or performance due to psychological reasons.
• Impotence - chronic inability to achieve erections strong enough to complete intercourse.
• Peyronie's disease - bending and angulation of penis caused by fibrous within shaft of penis.
• Painful intercourse - due to penile injury or tight foreskin.
• Painful sex - due to lack of arousal and lubrication.
• Painful orgasm.
• Vaginismus - Treatable disorder, primary and secondary condition. Involuntary and painful muscle spasm surrounding the vagina. The condition may occur on any attempt of vaginal penetration and may interfere with intercourse.
• Vulvodynia - painful vulval disease, may trigger secondary vaginismus.
• Dyspareunia - pain during intercourse.
• Vaginal dryness - decrease of vaginal lubrication.
• Vaginal atrophy - thinning of vaginal lining.

sexual health counselling

• Male and female condoms and dams.
• Lubrication.
• Safe sex.
• Contraception.
• Pregnancy/Abortion.
• STI's and HIV/AIDS.
• Sexual fear, guilt, shame.
• Sexual hygiene.
• Menstruation.
• Body image, Eating Disorder.
• Influence of alcohol, nicotine, drugs on sexual function and desire.
• Influence of poor emotional and physical health and hygiene on sexual function and desire.
• Influence of Depression and medication on sexual function and desire.
• Age related changes to sexual arousal and orgasm.
• Age related male and female sexual changes.
• Menopause.
• Prostate enlargement/cancer.
• Changes to frequency and quality of erections.
• Role of blood flow and virility in sexual functioning.
• Depression, diabetes, hypertension, high cholesterol, prostate abnormalities, multiple sclerosis and sexual dysfunction.
• Spinal injury and sexual dysfunction.
• Pharmaceutical and natural medication for the enhancement of erections and sexual functioning.
• Enhancing erotic materials.

sexual orientation and gender counselling

• Same sex, personal and relationship counselling.
• Bi sex, personal and relationship counselling.
• Transgender, personal and relationship counselling.
• Transgender - transition MtF, FtM  and SRS.
• Discomfort or confusion with gender.
• Discomfort or confusion with sexual orientation. 
• 'Coming out' - stress, fear, taking a risk.
• Discomfort with stereotyping gay, lesbian, bisexual, transsexual....
• Intersex - born with characteristics of both, male and female gender.
• Crossdresser - desire to dress as opposite gender and identify as both male and female.

sexual abuse and trauma counselling

• Sexual assault on men.
• Sexual assault on women.
• Sexual abuse experienced as a child.
• Sexual shaming.
• Rape. 
• Incest.
• Child molestation.
• Early exposure to pornography or adult concepts.
• Adult sexual abuse in relationship or marriage.
• Traumatic sex.
• Sex without consent.
• Traumatic child birth.
• Traumatic physical examination.
• Traumatic punishment - a child being physically or emotionally harshly punished, with no sexual intend by the caregiver - but experienced by the child as sexual intrusion.

sexual behaviour and lifestyle counselling

• Sex addict.
• Pornography addict.
• Internet sex addict.
• Fetish.
• Excessive or avoidant sexual lifesyles.
• Arranged sexual relationships.
• Male/female sex workers.
• Paraphilias.
• BDSM.
• Polyamory, poly families.
• Open relationships.
• Swingers.